Creating a space for you to relax

How many of us busy mamas spend the entire day running from place to place, never taking a minute to ourselves. How many of us feel like we don’t deserve to take time for ourselves? I used to feel that way until my back injury forced me to stop running and start taking breaks.

Over time I have come to appreciate the simple joy of drinking hot tea on the porch, or curling up in a chair reading a good book.

I have recently begun creating a peaceful place just for me in my home. I have filled it with the things I love, from my essential oils, to my salt lamp, pictures I’ve painted and pictures of family. My vision board is there and of course pictures of my loved ones. It’s truly a peaceful place where I can relax and meditate.

I think all of us should have a peaceful place to unwind. Do you have a special place in your home? If not, why not? You’re WORTH it!


Natural Living with Plant Based Products

Affordable Ways to Ditch the Chemicals and Switch to Nature
In today’s world, some of the most dangerous things that affect our health are things we willingly expose ourselves to on the daily. And some of these things might not be what you expect! In fact, you might be completely oblivious to the fact that the products we use on ourselves, in our home, on our children, and in our everyday lives, could be the very things that are contributing to why we’re sick, why we have health problems, why we struggle emotionally, and why we are not living a life full of wellness, purpose, and abundance.

Facts about everyday products from the store:

– Store bought soaps contain sodium laureth sulfate, a toxic chemical used to remove car grease off of garage floors. This can be damaging to the skin, as well as disruptive to immune health and hormonal health.

– Both adult and kid shampoos contain phthalates, a toxic chemical that has been banned in children’s toys, but is still found in body cleansing products. It is known to be an endocrine disruptor, and very hard for the body to break down when used consistently during bath time.

– The main ingredient in candles and home sprays is formaldehyde, which is the number one cancer causing chemical, and is what we get embalmed with at the morgue. They say inhaling scents from candles or sprays is the equivalent to inhaling second hand smoke, which is even more dangerous than actually smoking the cigarette itself.

– Store bought household cleaning products contain 2-butoxyethanol, which is a toxin known to cause sore throat, narcosis, and severe liver and kidney damage.

– Store bought laundry detergents and dryer sheets contain alpha-terpineol, benzyl alcohol, and camphor, which are all toxic ingredients that cause central nervous system disorders, loss of muscular coordination, central nervous system depression, headaches, nausea, and vomiting.

– Many baby products contain the listed ingredient “fragrance,”which is simply a broad category that hides hundreds of toxic chemicals behind that word itself. Companies are not required to reveal the actual chemicals that are within the “fragrance” category, hence keeping the public in the dark about the true toxicity of the products we use on our little ones.

– Women apply over 300 chemicals to their face and skin per day, including talc, bismuth, parabens, lead, mercury, and mineral oil. These chemicals are all found in store bought skin care and makeup products, which can disrupt the endocrine system, are highly carcinogenic, and have even been found in tumors.

When we use these products on ourselves and our children on a daily basis, the toxins build up and accumulate within our bodies – a process called “bioaccumulation.” This means that the more we expose ourselves to these toxins, the harder it is for our bodies to break them down. Because of this build up, it causes both minor and major health issues, that otherwise could be prevented if we simply quit using those toxins. Even if these issues aren’t apparent right now, they will be apparent later on down the road.

What’s even scarier to know, is some of the most popular “organic” products can still contain some the ingredients above. Even if you think you’re making a better decision about going organic instead of conventional, there is still a probability that your organic product is still highly toxic for yourself or your little ones. Don’t believe me? Visit the Environmental Working Group website at ewg.org, plug in the ingredients of your products, and see how high it is rated in toxicity. Or, download the “Think Dirty” app on your smartphone, and look at the toxicity levels. The results will shock you, and will make you want to throw those products in the trash.

Now that we’ve effectively freaked you out, let us begin by saying there is NO JUDGEMENT HERE! We used to use those products ourselves, all the time, on ourselves and our kids. But once we educated ourselves on the toxicity of what we are using in our home, and once we ditched and switched over to plant based products, our lives changed forever, and our families experienced the perfect wellness that God always intended for us to have. And because we’ve seen such amazing changes, we felt it necessary to educate YOU on these invisible toxins in your home, too!

So, what can I use instead?

The only company we trust that has products with NONE of the chemicals listed above, that is even better than the “organic” label, and that only contains the purest of plant based ingredients, is Young Living. While they are an essential oil company, they are also a fully-equipped natural products company. They have supplements, beauty products, household cleaning products, stuff for kids and babies, home purifiers, bath and shower products, oral care, and yes – even makeup! This makes it easy to simply ditch the products you’re currently using, and replace it with something Young Living has instead. It is your one-stop-shop for all things you will need for yourself, for your home, for your children, and for your health!

For over 21 years, Young Living has been the world leader in producing and guaranteeing 100% pure and potent therapeutic grade essential oils and plant based products. They’ve got this standard called “Seed to Seal,” which places them in a category higher than any other company in the world. Basically, what “seed to seal” means, is from the time the seed of the plant is sourced, until it is put into an essential oil bottle or a plant based product, Young Living applies the most rigorous quality controls possible to ensure that you are receiving the product exactly the way nature intended it to be. Simply put, the only thing inside the essential oil bottle is the plant itself – no additives, fillers, synthetic fragrances, preservatives, or dyes (which is NOT the same for store bought essential oils, hence why other brands are dangerous and highly toxic). The same goes for all of their products – the only ingredients within the products are the ones listed on the label, and they are all plant based. Not one single ingredient is synthetic, toxic, or chemically derived.

In fact, remember how we discussed how you can go to EWG.org or the Think Dirty app to view the toxicity of the products you are using? Most all products you are using, even the organic ones, have ingredients with levels that rank all the way up to a 10, 10 being the most toxic. With all of Young Living’s products, their ingredients have levels that rank nothing higher than a 1 or a 2. This goes to show and prove that there is no other company out there with safer, higher quality products – products that are also supporting your wellness, and not destroying it.

Yeah, but using natural and plant based products can be expensive!

If this is what you think, then we are so glad you are here! Because we will quickly debunk those assumptions by showing you how you’re not only saving money using Young Living’s plant based products, you’re saving your bodies, too. Even if Young Living doesn’t have a product you’re thinking of that is already pre-made, you can make it yourself using their essential oils, which will save you tons of money and prevent toxin exposure, too!

Plus, think about this – what is the cost of tending to the health of yourself or someone in your family? How much money do you spend every month for every doctor visit or every pharmacy run?  Even if you have good insurance, did you have to take off work during those situations? Was it stressful? Did it waste valuable time from actually living a life of wellness and happiness?

Let’s start shifting that paradigm, and thinking about the VALUE of taking care of your family. Have you ever heard the saying, “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure?” We can stop treating symptoms and start supporting systems by investing in our health, eliminating toxins and chemicals in our life, and flooding the body with nutrients and plant based ingredients instead. While we are definitely NOT saying you should quit taking medications and going to the doctor (modern medicine is amazing and absolutely holds a vital place in this world), we are simply saying that there are essential oils and products you could be using that will support a healthy body and maintain a level of ultimate wellness. And while we are not doctors ourselves, we don’t have to be medical professionals to make better decisions for our health and the health of our families.

5 Ways You Can Totally Afford Young Living Products:

Some people have a misconception of thinking that using Young Living products in their home and on their family is a new or added expense. WRONG! It’s not! Instead, what it is, is it’s a shift in spending. Everyone spends money on products every day, every month, every year – whether the products are good for you or not. With this route, instead of going to the store for all of your products, you are getting them from Young Living instead.

1) Get a Wholesale Membership!

This is the route that 99% of people go when they want to start using Young Living products. With this route, you get wholesale pricing on everything they have instead of retail pricing, which saves you 24% on every single item they’ve got! All you need to do is order a starter kit of your choice, or customize your own starter kit, and you’ll automatically get access to wholesale pricing on anything you want to try.

2) Get on Essential Rewards Immediately!

Another cool thing about Young Living, is they give cash back to frequent buyers. There is a super cool (and totally optional) program called Essential Rewards, which acts as a “monthly box” that you can customize and get shipped to you every month, filled with products you are needing for your family or in your home. Over time, you can earn up to 25% back in points for your orders, and those points you can use towards getting products for FREE. With Essential Rewards, you can also take advantage of the FREE monthly promotions that Young Living has, cheaper shipping options, and the option to cancel at any time. So, basically, Young Living pays you to order their products through this program. Name another store that will do that for you?! NONE!

This program also gives you a means of affordably ditching and switching, which can be a process to do. So, one month, you can order household cleaning products. The next month, you can order beauty products. The next month, you can order baby products, or supplements, or essential oils, or makeup, whatever you need – so on and so forth!

With all of these perks and benefits of the Essential Rewards program, it’s only a minimum of 50 PV in products for each monthly box, which can be the equivalent of $50. Now, before you think that’s a lot, it’s TOTALLY not! We all spend well over $50 a month on products every single month. All this is, is shifting that spending from the store to something natural instead. Even people with the most minimal budgets can do Essential Rewards!

3) Get FREE products with Young Living’s monthly promotions!

We briefly mentioned this above when talking about Essential Rewards, but let’s go into it in a little more depth. Young Living has this cool tradition, where they give away an assortment of products to members every month for FREE. For anyone who orders over a certain amount in a single order, Young Living will include some free products in the box for you. Normally, there are 3 different ordering tiers – 190, 250, or 300. If you order over any of those amounts in one single order, they will automatically include theFREE monthly products, which could add up to hundreds of dollars in stuff you didn’t have to pay for. Cool, huh?!

4) Create DIY products yourself!

Some people find even more ways to pinch pennies and reduce toxins in their home by creating DIY products with Young Living’s essential oils and products. There are literally thousands upon thousands of recipes out there to create chemical-free options for yourself and your family. When you add Young Living’s essential oils to your DIY products, the powerful plant properties will add natural fragrance, be soothing to the skin, act as a natural purifying agent, and will support your overall health at the same time, all depending on what you’re making. Basically, adding oils to your DIY recipes will make them even better for you than if you didn’t add them at all!

5) Share Young Living with friends, get paid for their referral!

When we say Young Living literally pays you back, they not only do that when you order, they also do that whenever you refer friends. For every friend you refer, if that friend creates a wholesale account and orders a Premium Starter Kit like you did, you can get $50. So, if you refer 3 friends to Young Living, it could pay you back for the Premium Starter Kit you initially purchased for yourself! Also, if you keep referring friends, it could get your monthly Essential Rewards orders paid for, too, that way you will NEVER pay for your products! Talk about a money saver! What other companies deposit cash in your bank account for referring friends? NONE!

Not sure of which products you want to ditch and switch? Let’s talk about them!

Since Young Living basically has everything you’d ever want or need when it comes to products for your health, home, or family, it can seem overwhelming at first. So let’s briefly break down some of these options for you, and you can decide for yourself which ones you are needing the most! All of these options are viewable online in your virtual office when you create your wholesale account, and can be seen in the product guide, too.

Essential Oils

An essential oil is the immune system of a plant, and it works perfectly to support the human body, too. To extract these oils from their original plant material, they are distilled or cold pressed, and then put into a bottle for our use. Young Living has hundreds of essential oils to choose from. But for those who are new to the oil world, Young Living has compiled a Premium Starter Kit with 11 of the most popular essential oils. This kit is perfect to get started on your oily journey, and exactly what you need to have in your wellness arsenal. This starter kit also contains a diffuser, which acts as your natural air freshener, your home purifier, your wellness supporter, and your emotions calmer.

You can use these essential oils in 3 different ways – aromatically, topically, and internally (the vitality oils). Depending on where you’re needing support depends on how you can use them – and don’t worry, it’s not rocket science! For example, if you’re needing support for healthy breathing, apply over your chest and throat, and inhale directly. If you’re needing digestive support, take the vitality oils internally to get the oils directly into the stomach and intestinal area. For skin support, apply on the desired areas. If you’re still confused on what to use and how, simply look in a reference guide for details!

There are hundreds of uses for each essential oil in this starter kit, however, to give you an idea of some of their most popular uses, here’s a brief overview for you:

Lavender: For restful sleep, healthy skin, emotional support, stress relief, seasonal comfort.

Lemon: For tummy support, removing sticky residue, healthy skin, mental clarity.

Peppermint: For tummy support, alertness/concentration, healthy breathing, cooling the body, head tension, tense muscles.

Frankincense: For healthy skin, emotional support, healthy cellular function, uplifting.

Copaiba: For teething babies, tense muscles, sore joints, tummy support.

DiGize: For all things tummy and bathroom support.

Thieves: For healthy immunity, overall wellness, blend that is included in all Young Living’s cleaning products.

RC: For healthy breathing, comfort during winter months, overall wellness.

Panaway: For sore muscles, head tension, healthy skin.

Purification: For neutralizing odors, healthy skin, wellness support.

Stress Away: For everyday stressors, emotional support, restful sleep, concentration.

Avoid applying directly in the eyes and ears, only use citrus oils in glass or stainless steel containers, and avoid applying citrus oils like lemon to the skin if you’ll be out in the sun for a long period of time. If any of the oils feels to warm to the skin topically, dilute with a carrier oil like coconut, grapeseed, or olive oil. Dilute when using on small children or babies.

 At Home

Young Living has an entire line of home cleaning products, which contain the powerful Thieves essential oil blend. One of the most popular products is the Thieves Household Cleaner. It is a concentrate, so all you need to use is only one or two capfuls of the cleaner mixed with water in a large spray bottle. With this, you can use it to clean your countertops, floors, toilets, mirrors, tubs, everything in your home. On top of that, it is safe to use around your babies, kids, animals, and elderly family members, without toxins and harsh chemicals that could be damaging to the body.

Not only is the Household Cleaner extremely popular, the Thieves line also contains these chemical-free options:

– Dish Soap

– Foaming Hand Soap (Thieves, Lavender)

– Fruit & Veggie Soak & Spray

– Laundry Soap

– Hand Purifier

– Travel-Sized Cleansing Spray

– Wipes

Switching your household cleaning products over to the Thieves line is the perfect way to ditch the toxins and switch it with something that will not only cleanse and purify your home, but support your wellness at the same time. There is also a Premium Starter Kit with the Thieves line to make your chemical-free journey easier as your start your new journey in using plant based products.

Kids & Baby Products

There is nothing more important and precious to us that our babies and children. We cannot control everything that happens in our children’s lives, but we can control what kind of products we expose them to, whether they are good or bad. And while we make many mistakes as parents in raising our children, we know that using these chemical-free products from Young Living is the one decision we can make for our children that is perfectly right in every way.

The Seedlings line, made for infants and toddlers, contains products that are specially designed for the health, comfort, and support for our babies. They contain zero harsh toxins or chemicals, unlike even the most “organic” of baby products on the market, protecting our little ones and also perfectly functional for their everyday needs. Some of the most popular baby products include:

– Baby Oil

– Baby Lotion

– Baby Wipes

– Diaper Rash Cream

– Baby Shampoo & Body Wash

– Linen Spray (coming soon)

The KidScents line, made for children of all ages, also is a line of products that allows you to raise the healthiest of children, without the worry of exposing them unnecessarily to harsh chemicals or toxins in their products. By using KidScents on your kids, you are supporting their bodies and protecting them in more aspects of their life than you may realize. Some of the most popular KidScentsproducts include:

– Essential oils (SleepyIze, Owie, GeneYus, Bite Buster, SniffleEase, TummyGize)

– Bath Gel

– Shampoo

– Lotion

– MightyVites & MightyZymes Chewable Tablets

– Tender Tush Ointment

– Toothpaste

Some moms put these products at the top of their priority list when starting out in their Young Living journey. While there is not a Premium Starter Kit yet with these products, you can get a Basic membership, and add on any (or all) of the Seedlings or KidScentsproducts to your first order.

Nutritional Supplements

If there is a nutritional supplement you are thinking of, and wondering if Young Living has their own version of that supplement, the answer is probably yes. Not only are their supplements top notch, they are all completely plant based, containing no added fillers, preservatives, or unnecessary ingredients. Many chiropractors and health professionals have praised Young Living’s supplements, saying they are by far the best and purest on the market.

Some of Young Living’s most popular supplements include:

– Ningxia Red (daily antioxidant drink)

– Slique (products for healthy weight management)

– Multivitamins (Master Formula, Mineral Essence, Super B, MultiGreens, etc.)

– Antioxidant Support (Super C, Longevity, OmegaGize)

– Age-Based Nutrition (FemiGen, PD 80/20, Estro, Prostate Health, MegaCal, BLM)

– Joint & Mobility (AgilEase, Cool Azul Pain Cream, Super Cal Plus)

– System Solutions (DetoxZymes, Parafree Softgels, JuvaPower, JuvaTone Tablets, K&B, Allerzyme, Sulferzyme)

– Targeted Support (ComforTone, Digest & Cleanse, Essentialzymes, Life 9 Probiotic, Alkalime, AminoWise, PowerGize, MindWise, Thyromin, Sulfurzyme)

The variety and selection of supplements seems almost endless, yet it makes it so easy to switch from your conventional supplements to something that is plant based, infused with essential oils, and much more effective for your body and overall wellness. Since Ningxia Red is one of the most popular and important supplements for everyone to be taking on a regular basis, there is a Premium Starter Kit with Ningxia Red. Getting this kit will have you stocked up with your daily antioxidant drink, and put you on the right track of a great new life of wellness for yourself and everyone in your family.

Personal Hygiene

Personal hygiene products are extremely necessary for our everyday lives. Some of the products we may be using from the store might not be cleaning us the way we think they are – instead, the toxins and chemicals lingering in the ingredients are dirtying our body even more than it was before we used them on ourselves. Young Living saw this as a desperate need in our world, and haveformulated tons of products that don’t contain any of the damaging toxins that can cause so many issues.

Some of the most popular personal hygiene products include:

– Thieves Toothpaste (Aromabright, Dentarome, Dentarome Plus)

– Thieves Mouthwash

– Thieves Dental Floss

– Thieves Mints

– Bar Soaps (Lemon Sandalwood, Shutran, Lavender Oatmeal, Melaleuca Geranium, Morning Start, Peppermint Cedarwood, Sacred Mountain, Thieves, Valor)

– Lotions (Genesis, Lavender)

– Shutran Shave Cream & Beard Oil (for men)

– Bath & Shower Gels (Unscented Base, Evening Peace, Morning Start, Sensation, Dragon Time, Lavender)

– Shampoo & Conditioner (Lavender Volume, Lavender Mint, Copaiba Vanilla)

– Massage Oils (V-6, Sensation, Relaxation, Ortho Sport, Ortho Ease, Dragon Time, Cel-Lite Magic)

– AromaGuard Deodorant (Meadow Mist, Mountain Mint)

– NEW Bath Bombs (Lavender, Stress Away)

– NEW Shutran 3-in-1 Men’s Wash

Lots of times, people put personal care products into their Essential Rewards order a month or so after they sign up with one of the starter kits. However, if any of these products are something you wanted to start with, you can get a Basic kit and add these on to your first order.

Skin Care & Makeup

Ladies who love skin care, beauty, and makeup, listen up! We pay big bucks on products to help us look beautiful, and we don’t even blink an eye. One of the most toxic things we do to ourselves as women is applying all kinds of cleansers, toners, creams, foundations, powders, and lipsticks that contain some of the world’s most dangerous chemicals. Though they are found in small amounts in our beauty products, it’s enough to cause some major health issues for us (remember the toxins we listed in the beginning of the class? Yuck!)

Young Living has an incredible line of skin care and beauty products that are not only good for us, but are also extremely affordable compared to other pricey (and toxic) items that we may have in our cabinets. Some of the most popular beauty products include:

– ART Masques (Creme, Beauty)

– Satin Mint Facial Scrub

– ART Gentle Cleanser

– Orange Blossom Face Wash

– ART Light Moisturizer

– ART Refreshing Toner

– ART Renewal Serum

– Sheerlume Brightening Cream

– Boswellia Wrinkle Cream

– Essential Beauty Serum for Dry Skin

– Lip Balms (Lavender, Cinnamint, Grapefruit)

– Rose Ointment

– Sandalwood Moisture Cream

– Wolfberry Eye Cream

– NEW Coconut Lime Body Butter

– NEW Mineral Sunscreen Lotion

– NEW Lavaderm After-Sun Skin Spray

– NEW Insect Repellant

One of Young Living’s newest lines is their Savvy Mineralsmakeup, which has quickly become one of the most popular natural makeup brands since its release. Unlike even the most well-known mineral makeup lines, every product is free from bismuth, talc, mineral oils, lead, parabens, phthalates, and will not clog your pores or cause skin irritation. And most importantly – it gives you a flawless look, whether you want a sheer finish or an ultra-glam Hollywood face. Some of the most popular makeup products include:

– Foundation (10 different shades)

– Lip Gloss (Embrace, Abundant)

– Lipstick (Daydream, On a Whim, Wish, Uptown Girl)

– Blush (Passionate, Smashing, I Do Believe You’re Blushin’)

– Bronzer (Summer Loved, Crowned All Over)

– Eyeliner (Jet Setter)

– Eyeshadow (Best Kept Secret, Crushin’, Determined, Diffused, Residual, Spoiled, Unscripted, Wanderlust)

– Veil (Diamond Dust)

Many women decide that it is time to go chemical free in their beauty routine, and are ready to throw out their toxic beauty products. While there is not yet a Premium Starter Kit with the beauty products, if you don’t yet have a wholesale account, you can get the Basic kit and add on any beauty products of your choice.

OK, YES. I’m beyond ready. How do I get started?

To get started with a wholesale account, you can sign up online at http://www.youngliving.com. Be sure to use the member number of the person who introduced you to these products, so they can get that referral credit we were talking about in the beginning!

Choose a Premium Starter Kit (with the Everyday Oils Collection, Thieves cleaning products, or Ningxia Red antioxidant drink), or you can get the Basic Starter Kit and add on additional products of your choice (skin care, supplements, Seedlings, KidScents, Savvy Minerals makeup, etc).

And don’t forget – get on Essential Rewards ASAP, so you can start getting rid of the toxic products in your home every month, and replace them with chemical free Young Living options instead! You’ll have fun customizing your monthly box, saving money, earning points, and experiencing a new life of wellness, purpose, and abundance!

One last thing – tell your friends about this stuff, too. It could be the answer they’ve been so desperately searching for in their health, in their life, for their kids, for their families. It was for us, we know it is for you, and it will be for everyone you know. Share with them, and let Young Living pay you for that referral. It’s a win-win for everyone!


Crisis of Faith

I’m so torn. Torn between my faith and my deep desire to show grace and love to others, and my human hatred for the state of our world.

I am angry at those who don’t stand for our anthem, in my mind disrespecting those who fought for their very right to do so. In fact protesting the very men and women who selflessly ran towards the gunfire in Las Vegas to save others. The same men and women who provide security for these players as they play a game.

I also recognize that I have never and will never experience prejudice and therefore have no way to understand what they are protesting against. In my mind it’s simple, the lord tells us to respect those in authority over us, the government or police, and leave it to him to settle any injustices.

In my life I have found that if I treat others with respect they afford that same respect to me. It’s hard to fathom that it’s not that way for everyone.

We live in one of the greatest countries on earth, but we live in some dangerous times. We live in a time where good is evil and evil is good. We live in a time where the rights of others seem to be more important than our own. We live in a time where we can be persecuted for our faith. My faith tells me that certain things are sins, yet I am expected to accept these things or be judged as a bigot.

I believe we are all just trying to do the best we can on this earth. Who am I to judge anyone else for their sins for we are all sinners. Yet who are you to tell me that I must put my morals/faith aside to please you? Why are your rights more important than mine?

Does anyone else notice that once enough people have an idea it becomes socially acceptable? Yet many of these new “norms” aren’t in agreement with God’s law.

Shouldn’t my rights and the rights of my children be just as important as the rights of others?

Having said that, I will continue to treat others with respect and love, and continue to pray for guidance.

I will continue to stand for our flag, I will continue to express my faith. I will continue to strive daily to show love and grace to everyone regardless of their sins, because the lord knows I am a sinner and it’s not my place to judge anyone.


Opioids for chronic pain

I just read a great article (and comments) about the use of opioids in treating chronic pain. 

 The small dose I use takes the edge off the pain so that I can function. I can take care of my house and my kids and be an active participant in life. I am trying new medications now as I’ve finally been allowed to see a non WC doctor.  

I’ve tried everything from supplements, TENS units, massage, acupressure, ice/heat, CBD oil (not pot), I do my physical therapy exercises and while I have had great success with many of these treatments, I’m still in pain.

 When my pain (normally a 5-6) gets up to a 7or 8 I take a pain pill and It brings the pain back down to my normal of a 5 and I can function.  

This isn’t every day, but on the days where I have to get stuff done and function.  

I have a lot of friends that also have chronic pain and it’s just horrible the way we are treated because of the actions of a few.  

 Click Here for a great article by Chronic Mom that sums this up better than I ever could. 

Essential Oils

Essential oils for Sleep

Sleep is so elusive, either you can’t get to sleep or you can’t stay asleep.  There’s one thing I’ve learned in this chronic pain journey – sleep is important.

I have tried pills (prescription and over the counter) and nothing has worked as well as these oils.

My new favorite oil is Rutavala.  You will either love the smell or hate it but this stuff works.  I roll it onto the bottoms of my feet and I can literally feel the relaxation creep up my body.  Within minutes I’m asleep and I wake up rested and ready to start the day.

Another bonus is that my honey is also sleeping better just breathing the oil off of my body.  Win win! Well except for the stinky smell that is.

Here are a few other oils that smell better and can also help support a restful nights sleep.

  • Lavender
  • Peace and calming
  • Cedarwood

Sometimes I rub the cedarwood on my chest to mask the smell of the rutavala.  Lavender is great for kids and even pets (diluted).

What oils do you use to help you sleep?  Let me know in the comments.

-Julie the Nurse

Chronic Pain

Relationship Pain Problems

Relationships are hard!  Add in the challenges of chronic pain and some days they seem just about impossible.

Lately we have been in such a funk. I’ve been in pain and stressed out about the job situation.  Rationing my remaining pain pills like they were precious gold to be hoarded and the increase in my pain had a severe effect on our relationship.

When you hurt it’s all consuming, all you can think about.  You tend to snap at people and just all around be a witch.  When you can barely find the energy to shower, it feels impossible to find the energy to give to a relationship.

The catalyst for me was when my man looked me in the eye and told me that he felt alone, that I didn’t talk to him.  Of course in my wisdom I tried to educate him that while he was talking all I could hear was my body screaming “pain, pain, PAIN!”   Armed with the above pain scale I explained that my pain is constantly a 5-6 with flares up to an 8.

You know something – it doesn’t matter.  One of the most important people in my life felt like he didn’t matter to me.  I was allowing the pain to control my life and ruin our relationship.  Something had to change.

What changed was my priorities.  Those of us with chronic pain only have so many “spoons” in a day and we have to be very purposeful in how we use them.  I’ve made it a point to allot a few spoons a day towards him.  Simple things, like doing a load of laundry, or making dinner.  I make sure the bed is made and the house is neat so he has a clean comfortable place to come home to.   Yes I made a list in my bullet journal to help me remember!

img_7622.jpgI’ve also started waking up with him every day.  This helps me be more productive and also means that by bedtime I am tired and not up on my phone all night.

Another huge (for me) change I’ve made is not allowing myself excuses.  For a long time I would say I’d do something and then for whatever reason (pain, exhaustion) I would come up with a reason why it didn’t get done.   He couldn’t count on me.  Not anymore!  Now I prioritize my day and write down the most important things I need to get done.  Amazingly I’m getting them done.

The best part about this is that as I’m showing him more love, he’s starting to trust that I’m there for him.  He’s starting to feel loved again and he’s showing me love in so many ways that I was missing.

Here are a few ideas to get you started

  • Read Love Languages and figure out what his is.  Concentrate on that.
  • Prioritize your relationship.
  • Write it down
  • Plan your day so that you have energy when he gets home.
  • Realize that you can only do your best and treat yourself with Grace.  If you are showing a true effort he will see it and on the days you just can’t – he will happily pick up the slack.
  • Realize it’s usually small things that make people feel loved.

I’d love to hear from you, what are your suggestions for a successful relationship with a chronic illness?

– Julie the Nurse



In the blink of an eye, everything changed.  The path I was on disappeared beneath my feet and left me stumbling in the dark trying to find a purpose for my life.  What is a nurse to do when she can no longer be a nurse?  

I’m not proud to admit that For a while I did nothing, I curled up in defeat.  Angry at the world, myself, even God.  Why would he let this happen to me?  I’ve spent my adult life helping others, why do I have to hurt, to suffer?  Why are my children suffering?   

What I’ve come to accept over the last 15 months is that everything happens for a reason.  There is a purpose for my pain.  My desire to help others hasn’t left, it’s shifted.   I looked back on my career as a bedside nurse and made lists of what I loved and hated about my job.  What stood out for me almost immediately is that the part I loved was the personal interaction.  

Teaching and empowering others to care for themselves.   I hated the paperwork and the rushing, feeling like I didn’t have time to sit with my patient and hold their hand.  I felt something was fundamentally wrong with giving someone 15 pills for breakfast.  How on earth could that be good for the body.   We are only treating the symptoms, there is no money to be made by curing the disease.  

Some of my most cherished memories are simply sitting with a patient and feeding them, or holding their hand when they were scared.   I lived for the personal touch, the connection with others and the ability to make their day a little brighter.   

Is it possible that God has other plans for me?  Is it possible that my work injury and subsequent suffering are preparing me for a new path in life?   What is that path?   Why can’t God just tell me what he wants me to do, because I will do it.   I spent months screaming at God to just tell me what he wanted, begging him to relieve my pain, bargaining and threatening.  I was desperate and lost.  I felt abandoned and alone. 

The more I’ve prayed on this, I’ve come to notice small things.  Opportunities that have been put into motion.   Quiet ways that I am being led in a new direction.  I still want to help others, I need to help others.   I have this passion to help others in pain, physical pain and emotional pain.   My vision isn’t quite clear yet but it becomes clearer every day.  I see the doors opening in front of me and the opportunities that I believe God is giving me to share my message.  

I feel that I’ve been given the skills through my years as a nurse to understand one way of looking at dis-ease and pain, and that through my years long research into holistic treatments I’m in a unique position to understand how to incorporate the two.   This is my purpose in life, to be of service to others, to empower others to take control of their lives and their pain.  

My passion is to help others and that’s why I’m here!

-Julie the Nurse

Chronic Pain

Pacing with Chronic Pain

One of the hardest things to accept with chronic pain is that you can no longer do all of the things you used to do .  Some days just taking a shower is too much.  Forget about going to the mall or cleaning your house in one day.  What used to take me an hour now takes more like 10.

One of the things that people do when they first develop chronic pain is we try to push through it, when that doesn’t work we lay down because that reduces the pain.  The problem with this approach is that it makes you weaker, deconditioned, and everything becomes harder to do.

We have good days and bad days – we tend to take advantage of the good days and do as much as we can – then we burn out and end up in severe pain, unable to do much of anything.  This is a vicious cycle because we feel guilty for laying down and resting, recovering.  Once we feel better we rush to get everything done because we don’t know when the next good day will be.  The cycle repeats.


I have recently learned another way to address this.  It’s called pacing and it goes like this: work – rest – work – rest – repeat.  In my case I can only stand for a certain amount of time before the pain skyrockets, so I work for 10-15 minutes, maybe loading the dishwasher, or wiping the counters then I rest for 20-30 minutes until my pain level gets to a tolerable point.  Then I repeat.

Since I have started doing this I have gotten more done with a decreased pain level overall as I’m no longer pushing myself past my safe point on the days I feel better.

I make a list of the top 3 things that I need to get done during the day, and I do those first.  I also use my bullet journal to map out my ideal day and track the things that are important for me to do every day.    I use kitchen timers or the timer on my phone to keep me on track.

IMG_7528At the bottom of this monthly calendar I have my goal tracking for the month.   With chronic pain sometimes it’s the simple things that get left out.  Making the bed in the morning makes it less likely that I’ll just go lay back down in it.  Cleaning the kitchen after dinner means that I start the morning without that hanging over my head.  Even something as simple as showering can be a challenge when you are exhausted at the end of the day and just want to go to bed.  I have set a goal to cook dinner 4 nights a week – this week it hasn’t happened due to increased pain levels and that’s OK.

My suggestion for others with chronic pain is to accept your limitations, don’t push yourself too far, and most importantly write it down!  Chronic pain does something to your brain and makes it so much harder to remember things, write down what you need to do, prioritize and give yourself grace if you can’t get to everything on your list.

Thank you for being here

  • Julie the Nurse